ON our honeymoon, my husband confessed he had cheated on me with one of my best friends.
It happened years ago but I am in bits.
My husband and I have been together for seven years and have a little girl.
We got married last month and went on our dream honeymoon to Thailand.
My mum looked after our daughter so we could have a really romantic break.
I’m 35 and I put up with so much crap from him because I loved him but I was always low down on his list of priorities.
Even when I went into labour he was in the pub.
He’s 40 now.
A rumour went round about five years ago that he’d had sex with one of my close friends.
She’s 38 and we used to take our kids to pre-school together.
He always denied it and when I confronted her, so did she.
He hung out with the wrong crowd so I figured it was somebody being spiteful.
He says he regretted it straight away and it was the biggest mistake of his life
He’s had a tough upbringing and a lifetime of people letting him down.
I didn’t want to bail on him when I had no proof.
He has been like a different person for two years now.
He’s attentive, hardly ever goes out and has said he realises what he has with us.
When he proposed it was like a dream come true.
The wedding was amazing but after a lot to drink one night on our honeymoon we were talking about our marriage.
He then dropped the bombshell and confessed that he did cheat on me with the friend that I’d thought he’d been with.
He says he regretted it straight away and it was the biggest mistake of his life.
But I feel heartbroken.
We’ve socialised with this girl all these years.
She’s even been in our house with her daughter, acting like nothing has happened.
I can’t see how we can move on.
DEIDRE SAYS: I do understand how raw the pain feels but it would be a shame to let a long-ago fling wreck what has recently been a strong and happy relationship, for your daughter’s sake too.
Tell your husband he can’t expect you to forgive and forget, but you are willing to try hard.
He was let down as a child, which may have made it harder for him to fully commit to your relationship.
But it sounds like he has now.
Tell him you’ll need reassurance but my e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? explains how you can rebuild your relationship.
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